How to remove negative past memories from our consciousness

 

Almost each one of us carries a heavy or subtle burden of negative events and happenings that have taken place in our life sometime in the past, either an immediate past or a far-off one; which reduce our present contentment levels , and ability to lead a peaceful life. 

The negative past could be of any form – you experienced the loss of a close loved one due to a break-up or sudden death; you went through a serious physical illness or a very lean phase of financial loss, you were abused on a mental or physical level; you were not treated properly by a colleague at office and undue advantage was taken of you; you performed an inappropriate action and you repent up till now, even after many years have passed, and many such similar and different types of incidents.  Negativity sticks, while we forget many positive events :-( .

* Modifying - A negative past event is modified into a positive, beneficial form and then stored in the consciousness. Typically,  this happens when we treat the event as a 'learning curve', and forgive the person who caused the pain.

* Forgetting - Memories of a negative past event are forgotten and do not exist either in our conversations or in our conscious mind or thoughts, but traces of those memories exist in the sub-conscious mind. This can be problematic, as such memories can surface anytime!

Though I feel hurt when I remember past negative events, I consciously try to see the good that came out of it [truly, everything happens for the best].   This helps stop the pain, and move on.

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